Psychosexual & relationships therapy
I'm a fully qualified sex & relationships therapist working with individuals & partners
I’ve been supporting people of all stripes to overcome their sexual & relationship difficulties for over 12 years. In that time I’ve learnt just how normal it is to come up against these difficulties and how, despite this, most of us feel deeply abnormal, embarrassed and ashamed about it, so much so that we avoid seeking support and remain stuck.
As a sex & relationships therapist, I honour the courage it takes to seek therapy and discuss such personal & sensitive themes with a stranger. I prioritise establishing a warm, friendly & non-judgemental dynamic with my clients in which we work collaboratively to overcome what’s generating distress and cultivate new insight, skills and confidence to navigate sexual and relational intimacy.
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I am a registered member of the College of Sexual & Relationships Therapists (COSRT). I completed my training at the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology (CICS), member of the Coalition for Inclusion & Anti- Oppressive Practise, Disability Confident Committed & endorsed by Pink Therapy. My own clinical practice reflects these standards & commitments.
If you're experiencing an issue in your sexual or intimate life & are not sure what to do-
please don't hesitate to get in touch for a no-obligation chat to find out if I can support you in my online private practice
a form of talking therapy that focuses on sexual & relational difficulties for individuals & intimate partners
my work involves:
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Establishing a trusting relationship in which clients feel free and safe to be authentically themselves. Through consistently demonstrating empathy, sensitivity & non-judgement, clients can engage honestly and openly about what's troubling them
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Exploring the clients' difficulty within the context of their physical, psychological & relational experiences
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Developing understanding of how a clients' values, identity, beliefs & cultural context affect their experience
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Equipping clients with concepts & frameworks to help develop new awareness & clearer insight into the nature of their problem: Why is it happening? What impact is it having? What beliefs, judgements and interpretations are being made about it? Why haven't previous attempts to overcome it worked?
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Introducing psycho/sexual/relational education, tools & practical exercises to support clients to overcome their difficulties
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Identifying the clients' preexisting resources & strengths that can support them to navigate the presenting issue
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Supporting clients to process traumatic experiences and manage their ongoing impact
what is psychosexual & relationships therapy?
So long as it's ethical, I'll work with anyone who'd like to work with me!
I feel grateful for the opportunity to provide therapeutic support for people with all sorts of life experiences, identities, cultures, relationships & sexual persuasions.
I'm proud of my record of working effectively with a wide range of clients- those with whom I share overt similarities and those with whom I have little obviously in common. The clients I've worked with in the UK & South Africa, aged 19-78yrs, represent huge diversity of sexual experience & preference as well as gender, ability, neurodivergence, marital status, relationship structure, class, ethnicity, culture, religion, tradition, political stance & scepticism regarding the therapeutic process itself!
I currently work with individuals, partners & non-sexual/romantic pairs. I deeply value & am committed to maintaining the diversity of clients in my clinical practise.
who do you work with?
I work with clients who (are):
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women, men, non-binary, other
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straight, gay, queer, asexual, other
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religious, spiritual, other
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married, not married, monogamous, non-monogamous
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18+, including senior/elderly
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speak English as a second language
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politically right, left or neither
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'kinky,' 'vanilla', neither
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sex workers, those who patronise sex workers
Common presentations in
psychosexual therapy:
Concerns relating to:
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arousal, orgasm, pleasure
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sexual identity, orientation, gender
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preferences, kinks, fantasies
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sexual shame, (performance) anxiety, fear, insecurity
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body image
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low desire, mismatched desire
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consent
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communication
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genital pain
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penetration
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unreliable erections
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ejaculation
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compulsive sexual behaviour ('addiction')
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sex-related ptsd
Which sexual & relationship problems do you provide therapy for?
Common presentations in
relationships therapy:
Concerns relating to:
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communication
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conflict
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sexual problems
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boundaries
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betrayal
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Trust
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differences relating to culture, tradition, religion, values, lifestyle
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parenthood
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fertility
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relational expectations
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jealousy
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control
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navigating changes
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relationship structure
pluralism: the modality of my training was pluralism, a type of therapy that prioritises the therapist adapting their approach to the specific needs of individual clients, on the premise that there's no one universally superior therapeutic approach but instead what works best for one client won't be the same as what works best for another.
This means collaborating to find the kind of interventions that work for you over time: more or less directive? More or less focused on gaining insight or learning practical solutions? More or less centred on psycho-education, mindfulness, creativity, narrative, conceptual frameworks, trauma-processing, internal parts work etc.
the therapy swimming pool: Down at the deep end lies our early experiences- memories, traumas, core identities, values, cultural and religious beliefs etc. At the shallow end lies our present-day circumstances- lifestyle,(sexual) habits, communication patterns, relationship dynamics, resources, thought patterns etc.
I understand the most transformative therapy to involve moving between deep-dive psychological exploration and supporting practical changes in the present.
Eg, for a client struggling with body image, we might explore the roots of their self-criticism, their values relating to desirability, how their culture, age, gender, ethnicity etc inform their experience and establish the practical habits, behaviours & choices they can introduce to mitigate their distress.
who do you not work with?
Due to my ethical responsibilities under the College of Sex & Relationship Therapist's code of conduct,
I am obliged to work within the scope of my professional training & competence & within certain professional boundaries. Therefore,
i cannot work with the following clients:
- those seeking therapeutic support for general mental health concerns/any difficulties not related to sex/ relationship issues
- children (under 18)
- those based in USA or Canada (insurance constraints)
- those who live in Cliftonville, Margate
- those I'm connected with socially
pluralism: the modality of my training was pluralism, a type of therapy that prioritises the therapist adapting their approach to the specific needs of individual clients, on the premise that there's no one universally superior therapeutic approach but instead what works best for one client won't be the same as what works best for another.
This means collaborating to find the kind of interventions that work for you over time:
More or less directive?
More or less focused on gaining insight or learning practical solutions?
More or less centred on psycho-education, mindfulness, creativity, narrative, conceptual frameworks, trauma-processing, internal parts work etc.
the therapy swimming pool: Down at the deep end lies our early experiences- memories, traumas, core identities, values, cultural and religious beliefs etc. At the shallow end lies our present-day circumstances- lifestyle,(sexual) habits, communication patterns, relationship dynamics, resources, thought patterns etc.
I believe the most transformative therapy to involve moving between deep-dive psychological exploration and supporting practical changes in the present.
Eg, for a client struggling with body image, we might explore the roots of their self-criticism, their values relating to desirability, how their culture, age, gender, ethnicity etc inform their experience and establish the practical habits, behaviours & choices they can introduce to mitigate their distress.
what is your therapeutic approach?
Session fees are based on income and circumstances, which is how I provide a sliding scale and lower-cost sessions.
individual therapy:
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£50, £60 or £70 per 60 min session
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£70, £80 or £90 per 90 min session
relationships therapy:
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£80, £90 or £100 per 60 min session
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£100, £110 or £120 per 90 min session
what are your rates?
qualifications:
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diploma in psychosexual & relationship therapy
Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology, 2023- 2026 -
l3 foundation in counselling skills
Lewisham Counselling & Counsellor Training Centre, 2022-2023
trainings:
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STOPSO - Working safely & effectively with clients who present sexual risk, 2026
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Relational Life Institute (Terry Real) - Working effectively with Couples, 2025
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Phola’s COURAGE Methodology, narrative therapy training for survivors of sexual trauma, 2020
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The School of Consent - Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, 2019
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Rape Crisis Scotland - Support Worker training, 2018
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Scottish Women’s Aid - Understanding the Dynamics of Domestic Abuse, 2018
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LGBT Scotland - Sexual Violence in the LGBT+ community, 2018
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Shakti Women’s Aid - Domestic Abuse & 'Honour', 2017
what are your trainings & qualifications
i work online, typically mon-thurs, 10-5
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Enquiry form (preferred) If your initial email doesn't include this info, I may request you complete this form to help establish whether I am well placed to support you.
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30 min Consultation call (optional)An opportunity for you to ask any questions, get a sense of my vibe and see if you'd like to pursue therapy with me. Free if you don't want to continue, £25 if you do, added to your first session's fee
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client registration form & contract (required) All clients must complete & sign both before pursuing therapy to ensure mutual clarity re the therapeutic process, boundaries & logistics.
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60 or 90 min first session: initial assessment (required)In order to ensure I'm providing appropriate support, our first 1 or 2 sessions will involve establishing the context for your presenting problem. Various contextual factors are important to for me to understand to safely & effectively engage in therapy. Assessments include questions about identity, mental, physical & sexual health, sexual & relationship history, trauma history, lifestyle, family history, cultural background & access needs.
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60 or 90 min sessions weekly You will have a weekly slot at the same time on the same day. Occasional rearrangements with adequate notice (as outlined in your contract) are inevitable and OK. I currently do not offer bi-weekly sessions outside of the final stages of a therapeutic process during which I offer reducing the frequency of sessions before ending.
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check-ins during open- ended therapy I offer open-ended therapy, which means there's no set limit on the length of time I'll work with someone. I invite regular check-ins in different formats to understand your experience and how it might be improved & to share any concerns I may have.
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ending therapy You can stop therapy at any time. I ask clients to give at least 2 sessions' notice to honour the process and facilitate a safe and contained closure.
What does the process look like?
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clinical placements
As part of my clinical training, I provided psychosexual & relationships therapy between 2024-2026 to support clients experiencing a wide range of sexual & relational issues at affordable UK-based clinical sexology service Sex Therapy Herts and Cape Town-based LGBTQ+ charity The Triangle Project.
I continue to provide free, therapeutic support at The Triangle Project for clients who cannot access private healthcare.